您是否有时意识到您是对饰面现实的恐惧的囚犯？ 您不想要看真相，因为它太残暴。 您发现数百借口，逃命(可能药物、酒精，或者其他自毁的行为)。 但您的恐惧依然是未被发现，未触动过，不嗬电和由您恐惧。

当然这是痛苦的，需要时间，并且最重要没有保证为成功。 您不可能知道它是否不会得到更坏。 “没有，它不相当它€将得到更坏的tryingâ ¦价值。 我不做着它!”

您知道什么？ 它是陷井，它同样借口。 如果您分成那个陷井，您将保持被动并且更依靠其他在你自己解决您的问题。 由于种种原因许多人相信其他比他们能â “能更好解决他们的€问题特别是，如果他们在他们的痛苦中选择停留。 井情景有时是可能的†“但不依靠它。 帮助从其他人是好†“但他们不可能执行奇迹。

如果您不注意您自己的需要并且不要(因为您害怕知道什么真正地发生)，您在其他人的手”和这个残暴的世界的成为的“可怜的受害者将“逐字地投入您的命运”。 在您允许其他做出最后统治您的生活的决定时候，您将感到，如您在您的生活有没有(或少许)冲击或控制在它。

我是这里不告诉您您不应该寻找其他的协助。 但，如果您不知道什么您想要，并且您请求其他“帮助您”… 很好，他们帮助，但是也许是您肯定的他们会帮助？ 他们是否知道您的道路？ 如此，他们是否真正地知道什么为您是最佳在那片刻…或什么为他们是最佳？

您应该首先做出您的决定。 然后，如果您决定应付恐惧，您能请求其他(专家或人们以更多经验)帮助您。 您必须是您的船的上尉…

在哪里答复？

您怎么能做出正确的决定和集合优先权为您？ 相反到普遍的信仰，它是“快速地是好”根据做出决定，并且的一个被证明的事实，如果您想要居住您要的生活，然后您必须做出这些决定。 没有羞辱在犯错误，当决定时。 然而，如果您允许其他做出您的决定，然后您丢失在二个区域中。 First, because you are forced to live with the consequences and second, because you don’t reap the full reward nor learn the lesson that making the choice or mistake yourself would have delivered. Therefore, if you don’t make your own decision and learn from your own mistakes, then you will be living according to somebody else’s wants and desires, shaped by the choices of someone else’s vision.

Make a list of the steps that will help you decide what to do and achieve your goals. Rank them according to their importance using numbers, e.g. from 1 to 10 and put them in your schedule. Learn to prioritize. Separate urgent and important matters. It is urgent to be at a meeting this afternoon, but it is important to take a car to the mechanic, otherwise you may have a breakdown that could cause even more problems. It is important to be on time for your job, but it is even more important to drive safely in getting there.

If you want to know whether you are deciding in favour of an urgent matter or an important matter, ask yourself: “What suffers because of what I’m doing now?” “What do I miss because of what I’m doing now?” If your answer is nothing, carry on, but if your answer is “something”, then you need to ask yourself which of these is more important thing first. As you will see, urgent things aren’t usually the important tasks, except at a really critical point. Do not let the important things become urgent!

Be focused and be aware of what is going on in your life, especially when it comes to a crisis. If you tell yourself the truth about what you see and are able to do something about it, then you’ll seldom have a situation that will escalate into a crisis.

A problem that is very small and relatively simple to master at the beginning can easily become a major catastrophe if left unattended. A small fire can be put out with a glass of water, but it won’t take long to develop into a raging inferno that not even fire brigade can’t put out. We tend to be creatures that postpone urgent or important matters until the last minute and this is nowhere more obvious than in when people plan for holiday – are you an early planner or a last minute shopper? You must also realize how quickly a small challenge can grow into a big problem, how an important matter can become urgent or urgent matter become important.

So, when challenge appears, tackle it immediately – because it can’t solve itself and there is even less of a chance that someone else will solve it appropriately (at least some disadvantages for you). As we have said before: change the root causes and the consequences will change as well.

Chase your fears away and consciously decide to take a chance in life.
Trust me, it’s usually well worth the trouble!

Of course, the decision (as always in life) is still yours… Its your life, or is it?…

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