You need to take control over your stress in order to channel your energy into performing as you would like to and not as a result of an unidentified stress that has a foothold in your life, and for that you need a daily control of your stress, you need a diary.你需要采取控制您的应力，以便将您的精力，表演正如你想，而不是作为一个结果，一个身份不明的强调，有一个立足点，在您的生命，以及您所需要的每日控制您的压力，你需要一个日记。

Some of your diary’s notes could be:您的一些日记，笔记可以是：

* Alarm clock didn’t go off and the kids arrived late to school *闹钟没有去起飞和孩子们迟到学校
* Traffic was worst than ever *交通是最严重的比以往任何时候都
* You arrived late to work *你迟到工作
* Your boss was with a bad mood *你的老板是与心情不好
* You picked up kids from school in a worst mood than at the morning *您拿起孩子们从学校在最坏的情绪，比在上午
* Mother in law came to visit you *母亲在法律上前来访问的你

Your stress diary can help you understand what causes your stress, how you react to stress and if your reactions are appropriate and useful您的应力日记可以帮助您了解是什么原因，您的压力，您如何反应，强调如果您的反应是适当和有益的

And to best analyze your stress you can also include the following information into your diary并最大限度地分析您的应力，您也可以包括下列资料到您的日记

* How stressed out do you feel *如何强调出你觉得
* What symptoms do you feel? *什么症状，你觉得呢？
* How did you handle the stress? *您是如何处理压力？

Analizing the diary进行分析的日记

If you use your dairy daily, in three to four weeks you should be able to start to see your patterns.如果您使用奶牛，每天在三至四个星期，您应该可以开始看到您的模式。 You will be able to identify your stressors (those things that provoke you stress), and you will most probably notice that some of your stressors will be repeated on a regular basis.你将能够识别您的压力（这些事情，挑起你应力） ，你将极有可能看到您的一些压力，将重复进行定期的基础上。

So the question is: What can you do about the stressors that come and come?因此，问题是：什么可以做有关的压力来来？

If one of your stressors is a person, you can decide not to see that person again (and if you can’t, at least not so often)如果您的压力是一个人，您可以决定不希望看到那人再次（如果你不能，至少并非如此，往往）

But although the animals have only two options: fight or flight, we as human beings can also re-define situations, we can change the way we react.不过，虽然动物只有两个选择：扑灭或飞行，我们作为人类也可以重新界定的情况，我们可以改变我们的反应。

In example: if you can’t stand your mother in law, instead of becoming crazy when she comes to your house, you can try different answers as:在例如：如果您不能袖手旁观，你的母亲在法律上，而不是成为疯狂时，她谈到你的房子，您可以尝试不同的答案为：

* try to understand that’s an unavoidable problem. *尝试了解这是一个不可避免的问题。 You like to see your mother and your couple likes to se his/her mother, and that’s natural你们是不是想看看你的母亲和你的夫妇喜欢硒他/她的母亲，这是自然的
* Or try to avoid the encounter not being there *或尽量避免遇到不有
* Or talk to your couple about it and ask that you don’t want that visit too often *或向您的夫妇约，并请您不想访问往往
* Or invite a friend of yours the same day, and let your couple take care of his/her mother, while you chat with your friend *或邀请朋友和你同一天，让您的夫妇照顾他/她的母亲，而你聊天室与您的朋友

Your goal should be to diminish your life’s stress learning how to deal with stressful situations, and this can be done responding in a more proactive and positive manner您的目标应该是减少你的生活的压力，学习如何处理压力的情况下，这是可以做到的回应更积极主动的和积极的态度

Every day has its own stress load每天有自己的压力负荷

Very often we carry over yesterday’s concerns into our present day concerns, or tomorrow concerns into today concerns.很多时候，我们进行超过昨天的关切纳入我们现今的关注，或明天的关切纳入今天关注的问题。

Every day has its own stress load it’s up to you not to multiply it.每天有自己的压力负荷，它的成立给你，不要再乘以它。 Try to live in present.尝试生活在目前的。

In your past, you probably should have said or done some things that you didn’t.在您的过去，你可能应该说或做了一些事情，你没有。 But the past is dead and you can’t do anything about it, forget it, live it behind your life, don’t carry it behind your back.但过去是死亡，你不能做任何事情的态度，忘记它，生活它的背后你的生活，不履行它的背后你的背部。

Relaxing tip 1: Start living mindful of the now.放宽秘诀1 ：启动生活注意到现在。 What’s happening in your life right now?什么事在你的生活的权利，现在呢？

If you have unresolved problems, you can deal with them when the proper time comes, but for now you need to live this very moment.如果您有未解决的问题，您就可以处理这些问题时，适当的时候来了，但现在你需要的生活，这非常的时刻。

Take a deep breath and while you exhale let your past problems go with it.采取深呼吸，当你呼出，让您的过去的问题，去与它。 Just relax and enjoy the feeling of being at peace within you.只是放松和享受的感觉，正处于和平与您。

If you feel it helps you, find a retired place in your house, close your eyes, breathe deeply a couple of times and get in contact with your here and now in peace如果您觉得它可以帮助你，找到一位退休的地方，在你的房子，闭上眼睛，深呼吸一对夫妇的时候，并取得联系，与您在这里，现在在和平

Relaxing tip 2: Practice this act of quiet calm not only when you feel stressed, practice it every day.放宽提示2 ：实践这种行为的安静平静，不仅是当你觉得强调，实践它每天。

Take a couple of minutes to improve your life.采取一两分钟，以改善您的生活。 Go back to a quiet place in your mind, close your eyes, and breathe deeply a couple of times until your reach your inner place of calm.回去一处安静的地方，在您的心目中，闭上眼睛，深呼吸一对夫妇的时代，直到您达到您的党内地方的平静。

Relaxing tip 3: Every day, spend some time doing something that really pleases you.放宽第三招：每天花一些时间做一些真正取悦你。

It’s your life and happiness what we are talking about, and nobody but you are responsible for that.这是你的生命和幸福，我们现在所谈论的，没有人，但你负责。

Do not expect that someone else makes you feel happy and good, do it yourself!不期望别人使你感到高兴和良好的，做你自己！

And don’t forget your body needs.不要忘了您的身体的需要。 You need to eat, drink and rest properly, because if you don’t you are only setting yourself up for additional stress.你必须吃，喝和休息得当，因为如果你不你只设定自己为额外的压力。

Relaxing tip 4: Isolate your stressors!放宽提示4 ：孤立您的压力！

After you identify your stressors, choose one particular stressor and work on it until you regain control.后找到您的压力，选择一个特定的压力和工作，直到你重新控制。 Then you can go for the next one.然后你可以去下一个。

Don’t try to deal with all of your stressors at the same time or you might feel overwhelmed不要尝试，以处理您所有的压力在同一时间，或你可能会感到不堪重负

Slowly, as you start resolving that situations you will start to feel better knowing that a brighter tomorrow is waiting for you.慢慢地，正如你开始解决这一情况，你将开始感觉更好知道一个更光明的明天正等着你。

Relaxing tip 5: Don’t fight alone!放宽提示5 ：不要单打独斗！

If you decide to fight alone against your stressors, God will just watch you while you try it, but if you ask for His help He will help you.如果您决定要单打独斗对你的压力，上帝会只是看你，而你也试试看，但如果你问他，帮助他将帮助你。

Don’t give up faith!不放弃的信念！ You might think that something is impossible to solve, that you just can’t solve it.你可能会认为事情是不可能解决的问题，您刚才也解决不了。 And maybe you are right because we all have limitations, but God has no limitations, and He can decide to bring an unexpected solution to your life if you pray enough for it.也许你说得对，因为我们所有有局限性，但上帝并没有限制，他可以决定带来意想不到的解决方案，为您的生活如果您祈祷不够。

If you give up faith, you are already defeated before starting!如果你放弃信仰，你已经战胜了前开始！

Go to your quiet place, close your eyes, take three deep breaths and relax.转到您的安静的地方，闭上眼睛，采取三深呼吸和放松。 Then start imagining how you would like things to be…然后开始想象你如何想的东西，要…

Stay a moment feeling the joy of the accomplishment.留一刻的感觉喜悦的成就。 And then let it go with the faith that what you want is coming into your life.然后让它去与信心，你想要的是未来到您的生活。

You don’t have to think about how you will resolve each of your problems; you only have to imagine that they are already resolved and enjoy the moment.您没有想一想，您将如何解决您的每一个问题;你只需要想象他们已经解决和享受的时刻。

If you develop the ability to relax, meditate and imagine your problems resolved you will bust stress, and take control over your life.如果您发展的能力，放松，冥想和想象您的问题解决，您将会倒闭压力，并采取控制你的生活。

Author of “THE SECRET of The Magic Lamp” (written in 1987) and it’s 42 Self Help CD with Subliminal Messages, that can be found at http://www.drbonomi.com “的作者的秘密，魔术灯” （作者在1987年）和它的42个自助的CD与潜意识的讯息，可以发现在http://www.drbonomi.com
Author of The Easy Home Business Web Site at http://www.easy-home-business.com作者易家商业网站在http://www.easy-home-business.com