Knowing that you’re worth the effort, is a task definitely easier said than done. Of course you’re worth the effort! You say this to yourself without a second thought. That’s why I know that I should be in a different place in my life. But there are no “shoulds” in life, there are only actions that propel a situation to occur. In other words, the only way to make something happen is to take the steps necessary to produce a desired outcome of self esteem.

For example, if you want to eat freshly baked homemade cookies, you must drive to the grocery store, buy the ingredients, take them home and make them. Yes, you can simply drive to the local bakery shop and purchase some cookies, but you want the authentic taste of a cookie that has been mixed, stirred, and baked with the care of homemade love. So you take the steps and make it for yourself because you know the outcome is worth the effort. You know that you are worth the effort it takes to make something you really want.

This sort of principle can be applied to longer term goals and desires and self esteem improvement. Knowing that if you, for instance, save one hundred dollars each month from your pay check in a savings account and commit to not touching it, in a year the long-term result will be a nice savings of twelve hundred dollars! If you had decided to put it in an interest earning account add some change to that total! The self-control it took to create such an account and stay committed to it takes perseverance and seeing the larger picture! It is putting off instant gratification for the vision of far greater things. This can be accomplished when we know we are worth the wait and effort.

While instant gratification payoffs can feel great, they can solve all our problems or worries – but, only for that moment. Once the payoff has worn off, instant gratification payoffs often leave the recipient feeling a bit cheated, unhappy, and feeling worse than he/she did before. This is often because instant gratification payoffs have negative repercussions. Eating that extra piece of cake tasted great in the moment. It was your favorite type of cake. But once you took that last bite, guilt took over. Your mind returned to the extra bulge of fat you have been struggling to get rid of that hangs over your jeans, taunting you. You feel weak, that all the promises you made to your self to be stronger were just wiped out with that one indulgence. All these thoughts combined make you feel doubly worse so that you just want another piece of cake to make your self esteem feel better in the moment. The cycle is vicious and easy to fall prey to, if you allow it to happen. This is the key, if you allow it to happen.

You have the power to control these urges. You have to power to exercise self-restraint. You have the power for self esteem. And, by exercise this means that you must work to strength your ability to refuse instant gratification payoffs. It takes commitment and effort, and the belief that you are worth the twelve hundred dollars in a bank savings account; that, in fact, no one can put a price on your value, except you.

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