PARENTING: High self-esteem and humility do not exist together
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PARENTING: High self-esteem and humility do not exist together. By John Rosemond. ADVERTISEMENT. • E-mail story • Print story • iPod friendly. A fellow, slightly upset at my recent series of columns dealing with the myriad stupid …
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How do you raise the self esteem of someone whose own family shuns them?
By believing in yourself / their selves first. That person is their own indvidual. No one else knows how they think or feel and what they truly know. They can however see the reaction and emotions that their words or action leave.
I understand being the blac sheep of my family. . I'm the middle shild , I got the S* from both ends. While they sat around or went partying doing whatever they wanted to do. I stayed by my parents wanting them to know they were loved and were doing the right things for us in raising us to the best of their abilities. I was a daddy;s girl. So that made my siblings angry. But this wasnt my choice to be that way, my choice was to help my parents smile and feel they werent failing and to help them have something to be proud of in us kids. I'm the only kid out of the 3 of us that graduated. I never did drugs or partied because my health wasnt good and was afarid to join that crowd, which in a way was a blessing for me. As it kept me close to my parents. I helped htem when ever and whereever they needed it.
So this made the sibling angry again because they said my dad would give me anything I asked for. It was only because I needed those things and that I gave up my time to ehlp in the familiy businesses when they didnt. My dad had plans to leave me them businesses when He died , but when my mom died the siblings manipulated the situation so they could shove me out of everything, making sure that everything was left to them. Again their reason were I got married and gave up my family name of Hollywood by takinf my husband's name. I took on his but never got rid of mine. Then also they brought up the fact that I already got evrything I deserved in my life while I was growing up.
However my siblings screwed up really bad , and wouldnt run the businesses so they lost them to the city. because the taxes didnt get paid. They knew I'd of gone back to run them, but they couldnt have that. Now they feel the pains of their screw ups. I'm glad my parents cant see this or know how it would turn out.
So because I'm not the way they are , and never will be I'm called the blacksheep by them.
My brother has hated me since I got married, and my sister always took things from me saying I'd have them replaced. If I just asked for them. My borther threatened to kill me if he ever saw me again, and my sister talks to me but I cant trust her at all. . they say one thing them do another.
So in my case being the blacksheep is a good thing..
This person needs to take the chance and rely on God for strength to rise above this problem. As they'll never be free if they dont try.
Tell them they're beautiful ,a nd a miracle, and loved by many around them, outside the family. They are important to the world and have a reason for being here. Take their experiences with the way they were treated and be able to show someone else the cycle can be broken if they stand up for themselves.
I am happy being free of my siblings because all they ever do is hurt me. So I lean on God and the miracles He's given me thorughout life, like doing everything I was told I'd fail at. And graduating High school , as it gave me the strength to keep going. Dont let anyone else's view, opinion, and words block the light and path that person is on. Have them cvome talk to me here. haven them read my testimony on y360 to see how winning can happen for everyone.
I'm here to listen if they need me to.
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