Whether we want it or not, we often listen to other people’s beliefs in order we can believe as well. It is a social habit. You are a social person living surrounded by other social persons, who’s opinions will help us or harm us. Your self confidence is affected by other people.

What you are focused on, will attract alike…

Sadly but most of the times it will lead us to “ruins”. It is rare now to see that people who we are communicating with, have good intentions for us. It’s quite rare.

However in building your self-confidence, you can always choose what to listen to and what not to listen to. Be conscious of what you are focusing on.

The truth is that if you are enough conscious of what you focus on, you will attract happiness and build your self confidence. If you focus on happiness, you will attract happiness. If you focus on self confidence, you will attract self confidence.

Like attracts alike…

Some people seem to have been born with a confidence that let them face the world. They walk smart and they talk eloquently and they seem to have the conviction that they are the self-made men. And we, the audience look at them with complete awe and envy and say, “why can’t we be like one of them”?

The truth is, they are good in projecting themselves. They are conscious of their bearing because after all, this is the aspect that we see. They know that when they choose to focus their mind on self confidence, they will attract more self confidence.

You can be like them, who said you cant?

Self confidence is not an innate apart of us. Self confidence is only a result of your mind experiences. Whatever information you absorbed, influenced your self confidence. It was cultivated and was be developed, otherwise it would be eroded by a number of reasons, both seen and unseen.

Self confidence is a trait we all have to learn. It is not encoded in us that one must be low self confident and another must be with high confidence. Chances are equal for all of us to grab, that is if we truly are ready to grab the chances offered to us.

Like most of human behaviours, the way we project self confidence and the fruits that it bears are learned over time. Additionally, it would always show patterns of development.

At first you might have a little faith in yourself and might even want to leave the whole thing and be “comfortable” with the way things are.
When you feel uncertain of your course, the one thing that you would want to do is to assume the state of self confidence. Believe for few minutes that you are already the confident person you are and constantly give yourself this impression.

This might take time so don’t expect that you’ll grow confident overnight. You might even have to use much of your will power and do some talking with yourself to be able to get through the preparation phase which by the way is the most difficult stage towards building self confidence.

First step is usually the most difficult…

The first step is usually the hardest one as well…

But this step is necessary one:

Be conscious of what you are focusing on.

Believe in what you are focusing on.

Desire what you are focused at.

Relax and let go…

Apply the last four parts of the first step and you will shine with self confidence!

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