Are you the type of person who looks after everyone else and puts your needs at the bottom of the list?你类型的人，谁看后天下之和将您的需要，在列表的底部？ How many times have you said “Oh, I don’t have time to do that for myself, I have too many other things to do?您有多少次说： “哦，我没有时间去这样做，为自己，我有太多其他的东西，怎么办？

Recently I overheard a conversation between a manager and an employee regarding a professional development event.最近，我overheard之间的对话经理和雇员有关的专业发展活动。 The employee wanted to attend something which related to self care.雇员要参加一些有关的自我照顾。

The manager said that the workshop needed to pertain to the job.经理说，这次研讨会需要涉及到的工作。 Initially I thought “that makes sense”.最初我以为“是有道理的” 。 Then I realized that taking care of yourself relates to any and every job.然后我意识到照顾自己涉及的任何和每一个工作。 If we don’t take care of ourselves, who will?如果我们不照顾自己，谁？

One of my clients often spoke about how she always felt rushed.我的一位客户，往往谈到如何，她一直觉得送往。 She agreed to make a list of all her commitments and then realized the reason she felt so overwhelmed.她同意作出的名单她的所有承诺，然后实现的原因，她认为，使不堪重负。 She worked full-time, was married and had 3 kids who were involved in various extracurricular activities.她工作的全职，结婚，并已三的孩子谁参与了在各种课外活动。

She was quite involved with her church, was a class parent and was involved in a fundraising project for a local charity.她是相当涉及与她的教会，是一类家长，并参与募捐项目为当地的慈善机构。 Her parents were getting older and had some health issues which she often had to attend too.她的父母越来越老了一些健康问题，她常常不得不出席。

She recognized that there weren’t enough hours in the day to do everything and that she rarely had time for herself or her relationship with her husband.她承认，由于没有足够的时间在一天中竭尽所能，和她很少有时间为自己或她与她的丈夫。 She began to evaluate her priorities, practiced saying “no” to requests and learned how to delegate.她开始以评估她的优先事项，实行说“不”的要求，并学会如何代表。

She became more energized and clearer about what she wanted and recognized that it was time to start valuing herself.她变得更加充满活力和清晰是什么，她希望和公认的，这是时间开始珍惜自己。

If you have ever traveled by plane you have heard the spiel about putting the oxygen mask on yourself before you put it on your child.如果您有任何时候都搭乘飞机，你听到了spiel约把氧气罩对自己之前你把它放在您的孩子。 Often it is instinctive to put yourself last.往往是本能的把自己最后。 Let’s examine ways to put the oxygen mask on you first.让我们研究如何把氧气罩对您第一次。

Make a list of all the commitments and responsibilities you have.作出列出了所有的承诺和责任你有。 Consider what you can eliminate and delegate.考虑什么可以消除和代表。 How much time would that free up for you?多少时间，是否会免费为您呢？ If you are having trouble with this, you might need to ask for help in order to make some changes.如果您有麻烦，有了这个功能，你可能需要寻求帮助，以便使一些变化。

The next step involves you considering yourself and what your needs are.下一步涉及你在考虑自己是什么您的需求。 What gives you pleasure and energy?是什么让您感到高兴和能源？ What are the things in your life which excite you?究竟是什么东西在您的生活激发你呢？ Many of my clients have been out of sync with themselves so long time that this question initially stumps them.我的许多客户已失去同步化与自己长的一段时间，这个问题最初树桩。

What do you do for fun?你怎么做的乐趣？ How often do you incorporate fun into your life?你多久纳入乐趣到您的生活？ If you are having difficulty identifying things, think about what you did as a child that you enjoyed and relished.如果您有困难，确定的东西，觉得什么你作为一个孩子，你享有和relished 。

The last step is to take Action!最后一步是要采取行动！ Do 1 or 2 of the things that you have identified.做1或2的事情，你已经确定。 Notice how it makes you feel both physically and emotionally.通知它如何让你觉得双方在肉体和精神上。 What impact is it having on your life?什么样的影响，是它具有对您的生活？

Here are the guidelines for you to begin to place greater value on yourself:这里是指引你开始的地方，更大的价值对自己：

Clarify - Write down a list of all things you’d like to do or want to try.澄清-写下来，列出了所有的东西，您想要做或想要尝试。 Don’t eliminate anything, no judgments, just write for 5 minutes.不消除的话，没有判决，只写为5分钟。

Action - Peruse the list and choose two things that you want to take action on.行动-细读名单，并选择两件事，您要采取行动。 Schedule yourself time to do it within the next week.附表自己的时间做内部下周。 Ideally do it in the next two days.最好这样做，在未来两天。 Just do it!我的做就是了！

Create supportive environments - Our intentions are often good, but we tend to slide back into the old habit of putting yourself last.创造支持性环境-我们的意图往往是好的，但我们倾向于重新陷入旧习惯，把自己最后。 What or who could support you in taking action?什么或谁可以支持你在采取行动呢？ Tell at least two people your intentions so that they can help you move forward.告诉至少有两个人你的意图，使他们可以帮助你向前迈进。

Have fun!!有乐趣！

Copyright 2008, Gail Solish.版权2008年，盖尔solish 。

Gail Solish provides executive and personal coaching to managers, directors and executives focused on workplace development and relationship management.盖尔solish提供行政和个人教练的经理，董事及行政人员侧重于工作场所的发展和关系管理。 You can contact Gail at http://www.actualizeyourgoals.com or at 416-322-0029.你可以联络盖尔在http://www.actualizeyourgoals.com ，或416-322-0029 。